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I am not afraid to declare that this song is freaking perfect.
So I reached out toDr.
It means your body is responding in the way its supposed to be responding.
And its as matter-of-fact as a guy talking about getting an erection.
When we talk about arousal, thats what happens to men, and this is what happens to women.
From a gynecologic point of view, this is just talking about normal physiology, normal response.
And whats so unusual about it, of course, is that nice women dont talk about this.
I dont find it offensive, but its also not that interesting, frankly.
Its just another day at the office.
It was kind of catchy.
I want to run some of the specific lyrics by you to see if they feel evocative and true.
I think the idea of something being really slippery …
I just finished writing a thing about the intestines being like spaghetti and your ovaries being like meatballs.
I dont know if thats what I would use.
Id go with juicy peach, which is something you see a lot more of.
Its more the idea of something juicy, as opposed to slippery macaroni.
As somebody who looks at a lot of vaginas, that visualization has never entered my head.
Can you explain more about the peach analogy?Something juicy theres moisture, glistening.
Those are the kinds of words that we use.
Thats what youd see in a juicy peach, as opposed to buttery macaroni.
Im thinking of worms.
[Laughs] Its not a good visual for me.
I do want to talk about the idea of health.
Did you read it that way?I didnt read it as shaming.
We have a whole spectrum here.
Its all normal as long as someone is able to have pain-free intercourse when they choose to.
Well, these women get very aroused, and they have a lot of wetness!
Theyre not shaming the women that dont.
Do you read it that way?
I dont.Theyre talking about their own experience.
This wasnt about squirting, but there are a lot of women who squirt when they have an orgasm.
And theres this whole thing about Im so embarrassed, and what are people gonna think?
Its a singular experience.
Theyre not speaking for all women.Right.
Theyre not saying, If you dont have a wet vagina, theres something wrong with you.
Theyre saying, This is my experience.
Well sit with them and go through the list the color, blah blah blah.
And basically, theyre completely normal.
And our job is to tell them, No.
What youre experiencing is healthy and normal.
You have this perception that you shouldnt have wetness or any discharge.
And thats why we spend time talking about whats normal and whats not.
We talk about perceived abnormal discharge versus actual abnormal discharge.
The whole feminine-hygiene industry is shaming women.
This is expressing their experience of normal.
These women are saying theyre sexually aroused!
So they get very wet.
Thats the flaw in his reasoning.
To be wet when youre aroused is normal.
We have a really skewed population; the women that come to us are coming because of problems.
Its not a general gynecologic center.
So Id say theres more willingness to talk about whats normal and whats not.
But people come to us ready and willing to talk about all of this stuff.
But we also normalize it by asking about it when they walk in the door.
We normalize it too.
But I think it depends on which population youre talking to.
But walk into an Evangelical home and it might be a little different.
What do you think of the song?
I think its really funny and clever and irreverent.
And the video is a delight.I was surprised how much I enjoyed watching the video.
There is a tongue-in-cheek-ness about it.
Theyre having fun with it.
And the lack of shame is so refreshing.
And I think this is one that people are going to respond to, both men and women.
And I hope thats what they were going for.
That women say, Yep, thats me!
And men are saying, Damn!
At one point, Cardi B says, I do a kegel while its inside.
Shes sitting there squeezing.
Shes contracting to give herself pleasure and to give him pleasure.
What I was thinking when I heard that was,Im an active participant.
Im not just a vessel.
The reason youre having such a good time, sir, is because I am squeezing your dick.
And again, I dont think they mean to be vagina shaming.
I think theyre just trying to say, Im enjoying this too and Come on in!
Sometimes the vagina panics, and it goes, Youre not coming in here!
And the muscle contracts.
So we do a lot of dilator therapy.
A lot of people think its to stretch out the vagina, the tissue.
It gets the pelvic-floor muscles to relax.
Problem is if his balls are obstructing her nose.
That could be dangerous.
But no, its not dangerous.
Just listen to your body.
If its uncomfortable and you cant breathe, then let them know and push them off.
But in general, no.
I think also, in most cases rememberDeep Throat?
Thats what it reminded me of.
But if it does, its not like something terrible is gonna happen.
Will you listen to the song again?I might.
I really liked the video.
I thought it was very funny and very well done.
Whoever produced it really did a fine job.
Will it be your office theme song?It could be.
Ill share it with you.
Northwestern wouldnt go for that.
They wont even let me sell lubricant or sex toys.
