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You have to be funny, or at least funny some of the time.
I really found myself frustrated with what I see as a confusion between self-promotion and feminism.
I wanted to write a book thats sort of …
Instead, Im going to change it for myself.
Im going to go and sit down and write what version of myself feels holy to me.
Im not saying Im a god.
Im just going to mimic.
Its not to be disrespectful to any devout person.
I think a lot of people can be really discouraged from fantasy, because people brace for disappointment.
These two women have saved my life a million times.
For me, Id always put romance first.
I had always done that.
We started to function as if it didnt exist.
It was wonderful, and it changed my life forever.
For me, I found that thought process to be boring, painful, and not helpful.
Where would we live?
At the time, I was just like,Oh no.
Am I just a lost cause?So, I wrote down all my wishes.
I wrote that for myself so that I could move on.
I thought to myself,Well, Id much rather be wishing for a specific life.
And a real wish that includes death.
Because that is keeping me in an unchangeable state of isolation and sorrow.
In aninterviewearlier this year, you said the book saved your life.
I felt that my good points were buried, and that I didnt have the strength to unearth them.
I felt like I wouldnt know how to use my skill set if I were to find it again.
I felt such heaviness and purposelessness.
I just really felt like I cant under serve myself in this way anymore.
I have this idea for this book, and no confidence that I can write it.
I just needed to rip myself out of a heavy, heavy emotional mud.
Its very hard to talk about how sad I was.
I also think its really important to say that sorrow is not the same thing as pessimism.
I felt sorrow, but I remembered to be an optimist, even if it felt totally foolish.
There was a thing in my head where I was like,Whoop!
But, I pulled myself through, or at least so far I have.
Maybe one day I wont, but Ill just keep trying my best.
This interview has been edited and condensed.
